Author: MJ Klimenko
Depression and Anxiety Are on the Rise
Now, some of you read this and think, "Duh." But others will be relieved to learn they aren't weird or crazy. You might be odd and old because it goes with being over whatever age you are when you fall all by yourself without any assistance from an external force. You weren't dizzy, no one pushed you, you just forgot about that last stair, or you seemingly just fell out of your shoes, so welcome to old age, that bridge you have always seen on the distant horizon. However, you have arrived and are standing in the middle of the old wood bridge that millions have traveled before you. You are not crazy. Crazy people don't think they're crazy. And there are now excellent medications for those folks. When you feel depressed and anxious because you don't know if you're going to be laid off, if you are earning, after fuel costs and bridge tolls pretty close to what you get paid, and if you can buy half of the amount of groceries for twice the price, you avoid long road trips or airplane flights, you've stopped going shopping and to lunch with the girls, or you only stop by...
A Circular Life in the Time of Pandemic
I'm sitting here wondering how to write a blog about hope without sounding like I'm preaching, how to express empathy and make it meaningful, what to suggest you can do to make your life more enjoyable, upbeat, happy, and I'm drawing a blank. Our country has gone through months, years of great unhappiness. We have many different political opinions, religious preferences, and so on. Acts of nature are beyond our control. Hurricanes, tornadoes, earthquakes, and mudslides where thousands and thousands of people are left dead or wounded, happen more frequently. California is on fire and running out of water. One percent of the citizens in this country hold over ninety percent of the wealth. The middle class has all but disappeared. Health care, including dental and vision, is becoming harder for individuals and families to afford. Even co-pays can be impossible to pay since the minimum wage comes nowhere close to parity for healthcare, medication, or dental work. Daycare costs have caused many families that would like to be a two-income family to become a one-income family even though the family could use two incomes to pay the bills and raise the kids. Many people go without the basic things...
THERE IS NO DRESS REHEARSAL FOR OLD AGE
And no one thinks the curtain will rise with themselves starring in Old Age. We thought old people came that way, never imagining they were once young Our culture turns away from wrinkles, bald heads, age spots, arthritic knuckles and doesn't value wisdom and experience. The time arrives that elders are moved to "a place that can take care of them," meaning three meals a day, laundry, and TV, or to a place where they can be around other people "your age," meaning bingo, crazy hat day, and movie night. You say that's what we need when what we know is that we've become inconvenient. We get put away in a place where we won't burden others with the infirmities that come with aging. Even if it's a nice place, it isn't home. We have more to offer than ever before, yet we annoy younger folks because we don't hear well, don't see well, and our short term memory seems to have turned into a sieve We don't want to be put away. We want to be with our families, want to hug the new babies as they come along, watch the movie, eat the meals, have tea parties with...
HELPING YOUR TEEN DURING THE CORONA VIRUS PANDEMIC
Everyone is affected by the world pandemic we have endured for a year now. Daily life has been severely impacted on so many levels some days it can feel like there is nothing to do but sit down and stare at the wall. The bills are due, the job is gone, responsible people have practiced social distancing, wearing a mask, and staying home as much as possible meaning no bars, no social events, no sporting events, extreme stress and high anxiety. Congratulations if you and your partner have figured out how to be together doing fun activities and chores without sniping or outright arguing. Generally, that requires agreed upon alone time that you use to go into a room where you are alone, and read, paint, meditate, work on crafts, do something on the computer other than work or porn or pretending you’re single and cruising dating sites. You can do anything, research, read all kinds of interesting articles, catch up on social media, send emails to friends or chat with a friend or friends from the privacy of your alone time. It’s even more important at this time to maintain social and familial connections than before the pandemic began....
THE NATION IS GRIEVING
I happened to see Deepak Chopra on a news show this morning. He was bring interviewed about COVID and said that he believes the nation is grieving. So startled, I stopped walking to listen to the rest of what he had to say about that. I know about grief and grieving, have had my fair share, but it never occurred to me that the nation is grieving. I thought, dissolving, having a collective nervous breakdown, using violence as a coping mechanism, and being submissive trying to survive fear itself, but not grieving. Yes, I thought, that’s right, the nation is grieving. It is going through all of the stages of grief, denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. In other dire situations, the stages of grief aren’t linear, and they can overlap. The nation is grieving for itself, no matter what you believe, no one is getting what they want, no one. Before I saw that news clip, I was going to write about despair, and how difficult it is and has been these past months, how in the beginning, we thought it would be over maybe not sooner but for sure later. No one could imagine being quarantined for six...