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WHO ARE YOU?

March 5, 2014
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| Categories: Anxiety, Life Stress, Personal Growth, Relationships

Here's an interesting article about a link between chronic stress and psychological problems such as anxiety disorder. How would you know if you're experiencing chronic stress? You probably read that question and thought it was a dumb question because doesn't everyone know if they're experiencing stress and wouldn't anyone know if the stress they're experiencing is chronic? Yes, a person knows what their subjective experience of their life is and was but people are also easily influenced and the placebo effect is around fifty percent. I often hear people admonish other people to "slow down," "take a break," "get rid of some of the stress in their life," "learn to relax," and so on or, even more exciting, are the people who suggest to other people that they're going to have a heart attack or a stroke or some other unpleasant life event if they don't get rid of some of the stress in their life. That means that someone could actually be feeling good as they're working hard toward a goal or juggling several life events at once or working long hours and a well intentioned observer (read family member or close friend) will offer an admonishment like the...

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ANXIETY A SYMPTOM OF DEPRESSION?

March 2, 2014
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| Categories: Anxiety, Depression, Life Stress, Seniors

Yes, anxiety and irritability are common symptoms of depression. People are surprised when I suggest they are depressed because they don't feel lethargic or sad but feel restless and anxious. Read more about it here:https://www.adaa.org/understanding-anxiety/depression/symptomsAll posts unless reposts are copyrighted by MJ Klimenko and can't be duplicated or copied without permission of the author.

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ONLINE LUNACY

February 18, 2014
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| Categories: Personal Growth, Relationships

Imagine going into a bar, a nice bar so I’ll call it a tavern, takes away a certain boozy aspect. And the people who frequent this tavern weren’t born under a rock nor do they live under a rock. They are intelligent people who are there to relax and enjoy getting away from life’s stresses for a period of time and often they are there to meet someone of the opposite sex, to find the man/woman of their dreams or at least someone who is seemingly relationship material. Are you there? Good. You have a nice seat at the beautiful, long and curved, glossy, walnut bar. Your favorite beverage is in front of you. When suddenly you hear a man say to a woman who is sitting a couple of bar stools away from him, “Hey, nice chest, you look good in red.” And then she calls back to him, “What do you do for a living?” to which he says, “How old are you?” And she says, “How much money do you make?”This exchange has your attention for sure. Then suddenly on the opposite side of where this exchange is taking place a woman says to a man sitting...

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OF COURSE HE WANTS TO SLEEP WITH YOU!

February 12, 2014
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| Categories: Life Stress, Personal Growth, Relationships

 That doesn’t mean he wants to be in a relationship with you. I’ve worked with many men and women who put themselves on one or more of the online dating sites. I help them with their profiles and with the photos they post. We also talk about things to look for, “red flags,” when meeting someone. Here are just a few. I’ll add to this topic in future blogs: 1. Everyone should have a hobby of some sort, golf, painting, dance, marathon running, knitting, something they do because they really like doing it and they would do it whether or not anyone else was doing it with them. It’s impossible to run a marathon by oneself but it is possible to love running marathons so much that one would sign up for and train for marathons even if no one else did. Other things, like painting or writing, are definitely solo activities. If the person you meet doesn’t do something besides their work or parenting, something they do that they love doing, you can expect that person to think being in a relationship means being together 24/7, and I can’t think of a faster way to kill a relationship. 2. ...

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FOR A SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP

February 4, 2014
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Here is a link to a video that takes three minutes and six seconds to watch. It's well done and well worth watching. I agree that doing these key things will lead to long term successful relationships. In one part the narrator says, "Both parties should feel free to express themselves as they are and know that they will be heard and understood." If you take away nothing else but that line and live it and practice it daily there is a great likelihood that you will find yourself in partnership and love for a very, very long time.http://www.upworthy.com/if-you-want-a-successful-long-term-relationship-of-any-kind-here-are-3-invaluable-things-to-know-6All posts unless reposts are copyrighted by MJ Klimenko and can't be duplicated or copied without permission of the author.

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WHAT YOUR CHILD DOES NEED FROM YOU

February 3, 2014
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I’ve written a couple of articles about what your child doesn’t need from you so here’s one about what your child does need from you.  1. Your Interest. We’re all busy most of the time, if not at work then working at the other things we have to do. If you feel like you can just never catch up, never finish with everything you have to do you’re not alone. So when your child starts a conversation with you, wants to tell you something that you’re not particularly interested in hearing, remember a child’s parents are the people who tell her/him whether or not she’s lovable and that’s her starting point for how she feels about herself as she grows into adulthood and out into the world.  2. Your Time. Set aside some time every day, even if it’s only fifteen minutes, to sit with your child and listen or just sit if they don’t want to talk. Meal time is a good time since everyone has to eat. Ask questions about something you know your child is interested in, not the questions you have to ask like whether or not homework is finished but questions that are neutral or positive. At least once a week offer to do something with your child like watch...

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