This is an important video explaining what happens to developing brains that are traumatized, and gives us a better understanding of childhood trauma, and why talk therapy in adulthood and childhood, for as long as it takes to help the client heal, is the best course of treatment. Without healing, the damage creating unhealthy responses in children continues into adulthood, and can severely impact adult relationships. It's the story that needs to be told and heard with caring and empathy. .https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jYyEEMlMMb0&feature=youtu.be
How many of you in relationships have been perfectly happy, life is beautiful, as is your relationship? You just feel good Then, out of left field, your partner gets angry at you for something and having a conversation about it is out of the question because he’s either yelling about it or he’s withdrawn and being as cold as he can manage to be, making sure you know they are being cold. And as soon as the happens, no matter how happy you were minutes before then, your heart feels like someone is squeezing it with a strong fist, your anxiety level ratchets up, you’re suddenly miserable. You may choose to fight until both of you retreat to separate couches, solving nothing, or you may decide to lick your wounds in separate parts of the house. But didn’t you even look down at your chest and wonder how your heart can feel pain that quickly, and how that pain is just devastating. You might do what you know you have to do as far as your obligations, but the entire time you’re miserable. Then, after the blowup where both of you get it all out and some, not in a...
We all know these people. This is the kind of article that makes you laugh because it’s true. It’s an opportunity to see if you’re in the club. https://thoughtcatalog.com/maddison-jensen/2013/10/6-irritating-things-insecure-people-do/
Now, If you’re over forty you’ve probably grown out of trying to find reasons to get away from your partner. You’ve come to realize the one you got is actually the one you truly love, so most articles about couples and time apart are written for millennials. However, if any of you feel like it may be bad for your health to spend a lot of time with your spouse, as in “me time,” read on: https://twin-cities.umn.edu/news-events/make-time-your-spouse-couples-spend-time-together-are-happier-individuals
Well, Valentines Day is over for another year. Some of you were pleased and happy by the end of that day. Some of you were miserable and sad or angry. Here's an interesting article about The Art of Charm. More articles like this could make the holiday brighter for some of next year's sad women. It's annoying to navigate all of the ads but the article is worth reading. You might have to click on the fireworks to get the article. "The science of what makes girls fall in love isn’t a magic spell or a Jedi mind trick. It’s the simple act of paying attention to habits, behaviors, and preferences with an eye toward the role science plays in affairs of the heart. You can’t hack into her brain and make her fall in love with you, but you can use your knowledge of how the brain works to nurture and deepen attraction that’s already there." Read more at the TheArtofCharm.com here:
This article is about the history of women's anger and more. Much is written about men's anger, very little about women's. https://broadly.vice.com/en_us/article/4xke4b/the-history-of-female-anger