Please read yesterday's post first and then this second half: you so you got punished for getting bad grades, and more but you get the drift, you were taught to hate yourself because, after all, would any of the loving people in their lives do anything to deliberately hurt them unless they were disgusting and not deserving of love. You, through no fault of your own, became a self-hater and self-haters project the self-hate out onto other people and then believe that others find you disgusting so you can find them disgusting back and them’s fighting words. If we could create a sea of mothers who, in the same decade, gave birth to children that they then protected and loved and nurtured, we could turn the world around. Those that are loved learn to love themselves and those that love themselves are able to love others.
There’s much talk, some action and much inaction when it comes to professing self-love, doing yoga and drinking green tea, having best friends from the second grade, to looking honestly at yourself and admitting you hate yourself, loath yourself, and, quickly now you’ll go there, then put it out of your mind right away. Truth is, if there wasn’t self-loathing in the world there would be no war. It’s the best kept secret, no one ever admits to unless they’re in therapy. You didn’t suddenly just wake up one day and had the oh so sudden thought about hating yourself. No, it was a gift some or one unwitting adult gave you, mostly not out of meanness but out of ignorance. Bad parenting is handed down from generation to generation, so no one knows that the way they’re doing it is going to cause one more generation of self-loathing adults. If you, when you were a kid, were ridiculed at home or at school, punished harshly and unfairly, couldn’t understand the homework and no one would help Cont. Part 2 tomorrow
Very few women think they are going to be hurt by a stranger while they are going about their daily business. However, it happens to women every day somewhere and until it happens to you or unless it happens to you these are tips about protecting yourself that you probably don't know, some of them at least and they're all worth knowing just in case. This is a very informative list: www.womentraveltips.com/tips5.shtml
Yes, this program professes to "clean sweep your life". It's very interesting and can give you some ideas and insight into what gets in your way to success. betterme.org/cleansweep.html
Yes, according to scientific data there is one thing we can do that has many positive benefits and doesn't cost a dime. Unfortunately, many people don't take even fifteen minutes a day to do it. Yes, you're busy, yes it's boring (maybe), yes to all the reasons why it just doesn't happen in your life. Read this and hopefully it will change your mind. https://qz.com/592569/a-neuroscientist-says-theres-a-powerful-benefit-to-exercise-that-is-rarely-discussed/
ironically is probably helping you stay fat or get fatter. When clients come into my office for the first time their presenting problem is rarely their weight yet many are obese or close to it. After working with them for several sessions most will bring up their weight. When I tell them what is best described by this helpful and interesting blog. Unfortunately, most don't believe me. Even if they try it for a week they go back to comfort eating and to the dieting myths that keep them fat or getting fatter. And they do this because they believe they deserve to be punished for being fat so losing the fat should hurt. No, actually it shouldn't. If it does you won't lose the weight you want to lose. Everyone comfort eats and you do too. Learn these myths and find a better way. Here's the link to the blog. It's a very quick read, with pictures, so it won't bore you but could make all the difference in the world to you and a happier, healthier life: http://blog.reliasacademy.com/dieting-myths-to-avoid/